Control freak

In the slang of psychology, the colloquial term control freak describes a person with a personality disorder characterized by undermining other people, usually by way of controlling behavior manifested in the ways that he or she acts to dictate the order of things in a social situation.[1] The term control freak was first used in the 1970s, a decade when the cultural Zeitgeist featured liberal social norms, which espoused the live-and-let-live principle of "Do your own thing" in opposition its perceived requirement of social conformity within traditional conservatism.[2]

Not to be confused with Control Freek.

Personality psychology
See also: Abusive power and control

In the study of personality psychology, people with certain personality disorders display characteristics involving their need to gain the compliance of and control over other people:[3]

Vulnerability
See also: True self and false self

Control freaks are often perfectionists[5] defending themselves against their own inner vulnerabilities in the belief that if they are not in total control they risk exposing themselves once more to childhood angst.[6] Such persons manipulate and pressure others to change so as to avoid having to change themselves,[7] and use power over others to escape an inner emptiness.[8] When a control freak's pattern is broken, the controller is left with a terrible feeling of powerlessness but feeling their pain and fear brings them back to themselves.[9]

Control freaks appear to have some similarities to codependents, in the sense that the latters' fear of abandonment leads to attempts to control those they are dependent on.[10] Recovery for them entails recognizing that being a control freak helped paradoxically preserve codependency itself.[11]

In terms of personality-type theory, control freaks are very much the Type A personality, driven by the need to dominate and control.[12] An obsessive need to control others is also associated with antisocial personality disorder.[13]

In management

In the corporate world, control freaks tend to publicly admonish their inferiors, especially during meetings.[14] More positively, the term can also refer to someone with a limited number of things that they want done a specific way; professor of clinical psychology Les Parrott wrote that “Control Freaks are people who care more than you do about something and won't stop at being pushy to get their way”.[15] There may be a fine line between being a detail-oriented manager, who likes to have things done 'right', and being a (destructive) control freak.[16] Control freaks are usually a cause of micromanagement.

In some cases, the control freak sees their constant intervention as beneficial or even necessary. This can be caused by feelings of separation or departure from a loved one; or by the belief that others are incapable of handling matters properly, or the fear that things will go wrong if they do not attend to every detail. In other cases, they may simply enjoy the feeling of power it gives them so much that they automatically try to gain control of everything and everyone around them.

In history

Wellington v. Napoleon

Wellington as military commander was undoubtedly a hands-on micromanager, trusting his subordinates as little as possible, and showing many of the characteristics of the modern day control freak.[17] In 1811 he wrote that “I am obliged to be everywhere and if absent from any operation, something goes wrong … success can only be attained by attention to the most minute details”.[18]

By contrast, Napoleon gave his marshals much more tactical freedom.[19] At the critical meeting of the two generals at the Battle of Waterloo — where Wellington's close supervision contrasted strongly with the effective delegation of operational management by Napoleon to Marshall Ney[20] — it was at least arguably Wellington's control mania that played the decisive role in the Allied victory, justifying his claim the following day that “I don't think it would have been done if I had not been there”.[21]

Queen Victoria

A series of three documentary programs on BBC2 in the UK in January 2013 called Queen Victoria's Children argued that Queen Victoria was a pathological control freak by the way she controlled the welfare of all her children.[22]

Steve Jobs and closed systems

Steve Jobs was a perfectionist who favored the closed system of control over all aspects of a product from start to finish — what he termed the integrated over the fragmented approach.[23] As Steve Wozniak, his long-term collaborator and occasional critic, put it: "Apple gets you into their playpen and keeps you there.[24] The triumph of the Windows PC over the Mac was a blow for that philosophy, a situation that was then reversed by the successes of the iPod, iPhone, and iPad – only for the Android challenge to reopen the debate."[25]

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See also

References
  1. "the definition of control freak". Dictionary.com. Archived from the original on 7 November 2017. Retrieved 3 May 2018.
  2. Glaser, Kristin in The Radical Therapist (Penguin 1974) p. 246
  3. Larsen, Randy J. and Buss, David M. Personality Psychology: Domains of Knowledge about Human Nature New York:McGraw-Hill Higher Education, 2010. pp. 000-000.
  4. Rappoport, Alan, Ph. D.Co-Narcissism: How We Adapt to Narcissism. The Therapist, 2005 Archived 2015-08-11 at the Wayback Machine.
  5. Michelle N. Lafrance, Women and Depression (2009) p. 89
  6. Art Horn, Face It (2004) p. 53
  7. Robin Skynner/John Cleese, Families and how to survive them (London 1994) p. 208
  8. Robert Bly and Marion Woodman, The Maiden King (Dorset 1999) p. 141
  9. Patricia Evans, Controlling People (Avon 2002) p. 129 and p. 274
  10. David Stafford & Liz Hodgkinson, Codependency (London 1995) p. 131
  11. Deb M., in Stepping Stones to Recovery from Codependency (1993) p. 61
  12. Andrew Holmes/Dan Wilson, Pains in the Office (2004) p. 56
  13. Martha Stout, The Sociopath Next Door (2005) p. 47
  14. Andrew Buck — Meeting Behaviors: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly Archived 2010-06-10 at the Wayback Machine
  15. Parrot, Les (2001). The Control Freak. Carol Stream: Tyndale House Publishers. ISBN 0-8423-3793-8.
  16. Gillian Tett, Fool's Gold (London 2009) p. 165
  17. Richard Holmes, Wellington: The Iron Duke (London 2003) p. 178 and p. 169
  18. Quoted in Michael Glover, Wellington as Military Commander (London 1968) p. 205
  19. Jac Weller, Wellington at Waterloo (London 1967) p. 21
  20. James Marshall-Cornwall, Napoleon as Military Commander (London 1967) p. 278
  21. Quoted in Glover, p. 204
  22. Queen Victoria's Children BBC2 January 2013
  23. Walter Isaacson, Steve Jobs (2011) p. 564 and p. 513
  24. Quoted in Isaacson, p. 497
  25. Isaacson, p. 513 and p. 497

Further reading
  • E.A. Deuble & A. Bradley, It Has A Name!: How To Keep Control Freaks & Other Unhealthy Narcissists From Ruining Your Life (2010)
  • Mary L. Berg, The Joy of Being a Control Freak (2011)
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