My Ubuntu 12.04.2 server (all packages and distribution completely up to date) was just using 558MB of RAM when I shelled in this morning. Nothing is running on the server besides sshd and whatever comes with the distribution. There was only 1 "break-in attempt" from China in /var/log/auth.log
(so nothing wildly out of the ordinary there). Every port besides 22 is sealed off from outside from inbound traffic, by iptables.
Is it quite normal for an Ubuntu 12.04.2 server to be using +500MB of RAM after running for only 3 days, or should I be concerned? In case you're wondering, I don't have process info, because I didn't think much of it at first, so I rebooted :(
Memory usage 30 minutes after rebooting (appears normal still):
$free -m
total used free shared buffers cached
Mem: 1995 128 1867 0 5 50
-/+ buffers/cache: 72 1923
Swap: 1953 0 1953