The Conversation (Mad About You)

"The Conversation" is the ninth episode of the sixth season of the American sitcom Mad About You. It was written by executive producer Victor Levin and directed by Gordon Hunt. The episode originally aired on December 16, 1997 on NBC. The plot sees married couple Paul (Paul Reiser) and Jamie Buchman (Helen Hunt) have a 20-minute conversation in front of their bedroom door, as they allow their infant daughter Mabel to cry herself to sleep for the first time.

"The Conversation"
Mad About You episode
Episode no.	Season 6 Episode 9
Directed by	Gordon Hunt
Written by	Victor Levin
Original air date	December 16, 1997 (1997-12-16)
Running time	22 minutes

"The Conversation" is a bottle episode that was filmed in one take with a single camera. Playing out in real time, it takes place almost entirely outside the Buchman's bedroom. The episode was originally broadcast uninterrupted by commercials, which only aired after the opening theme and just before the end credits. Levin was inspired to write the episode around Ferberization as he believed that it had "strong emotional ground". He also wanted an episode that would showcase Reiser and Hunt, who had always wanted to try the bottle episode format.

The episode was seen by 17.9 million viewers, giving the show its largest audience since the sixth-season premiere. It received a mixed reaction following its broadcast, with critics praising Reiser and Hunt's performances, and the honest and funny script. However, one critic called it the "most annoying Mad About You episode ever".[1] In later years it has been named one of television's best bottle episodes.

Plot

Jamie and Paul Buchman put their infant daughter Mabel to bed, and wait outside the bedroom door to see if she will go to sleep on her own. Jamie sets a timer for intervals that allow them to check on Mabel, but they can only comfort her verbally. Paul is unhappy with the method, as he wants to go in and hold Mabel, but Jamie insists that it will be good for her in the end, and stops him from going into the room early. As they wait outside the door, Paul and Jamie talk about various topics, including Jamie winning 500 pounds of rigatoni, Paul's concern that he is shrinking and his sudden realization that they have a cabinet by the room. When Jamie discovers their dog Murray is in the bedroom, Paul has to crawl in and get Murray out. Paul picks up a magazine featuring a sales listing for a house, and he admits that he wants to move to the suburbs.

Paul and Jamie argue over city and suburban living, causing Jamie to remark that they are completely incompatible as parents, as they disagree on almost everything. Jamie feels sick and Paul helps her to realize that her gut instinct is telling her to pick up Mabel. However, just before they go in, they hear that Mabel has finally fallen asleep. Jamie tells Paul that they broke Mabel's heart because she knows that they will not always be there for her. Paul stops Jamie from going inside, as he worries that they will wake her. Jamie then tells him to turn back the clock and they stay outside the door. They later watch a film together and Paul points out the scene is all one-shot, but Jamie is not impressed.

Production

Conception and writing

The sitcom's executive producer Victor Levin wrote the script. He believed an episode focusing on Ferberization, a technique that allows a child to cry itself to sleep, would have "strong emotional ground".[2] Levin spoke with the writing staff and the actors about his idea of Paul and Jamie being unable to leave the doorway to their bedroom, as they listen to their daughter's cries. He explained to Nancy McAlister of The Florida Times Union: "What would be the surprises that would be unearthed if two people sat down just to talk since they've had a kid? Maybe they've been so busy they haven't had time to have a substantive talk. What do you think would come out?"[2] Levin felt the plot would also showcase Paul Reiser and Helen Hunt's talents. He also hoped the episode would resonate with parents and elicit empathy from the rest of the audience, saying "I hope that they feel that it's real and honest and funny."[2]

Reiser told The Record's Virginia Rohan that all parents go through a version of Ferberization at some point.[3] As the episode plays out, Paul and Jamie come to realize that they have very different parenting styles.[2] They argue and converse, which brings up "surprising revelations", including Paul's views on where they raise their daughter.[3] Reiser said that the bottle episode format was something the show had always wanted to try, following a season one episode set in the bathroom.[4] He commented, "if the story is compelling enough, you could put an entire episode in an elevator."[4] They were unable to find such a story until the sixth season.[4] Levin also stated that Mad About You had plans for an experimental episode before medical drama ER aired its live episode that same year. He told McAlister that the format was the right way for the story to be told and that it was not a stunt.[2]

Filming and broadcast

Hunt's father Gordon Hunt directed "The Conversation".[5] In preparation for filming, the cast and crew had to know the exact length of the script, so they would not run over the time or run too short. Levin told McAlister that the script was "accurately timed out", so they knew how long the lines took to say.[6] Rehearsals did not differ from regular episodes, but there were two "practice runs" during the afternoon of the shoot.[3] The episode was filmed with a single camera in one take, so that it plays out in real time.[5][6] Reiser confirmed that the episode took 25 minutes to film compared with the usual three hours.[3]

The episode was filmed twice with and without a live studio audience. The take with the audience was the version that was broadcast.[2] Levin confirmed that the audience had a positive reaction to the script and jokes, saying "I think they felt they were part of something unusual."[2] At one point, Paul and Jamie realize their dog Murray is in the bedroom with Mabel and Paul has to crawl in to get Murray out.[3] Reiser was surprised by the dog's timing and he was appreciative that the scene went well, saying "we were working on our lines, and he was working on his little belly crawl."[3]

"The Conversation" was originally broadcast without interruption from commercials, which were aired at the beginning after the theme song and just before the credits.[5][7] Levin expressed his gratitude to the NBC network for helping out with the process.[2] He also revealed that the lack of commercials impacted the writing, and he made sure that, despite being one scene, the episode had a beginning, middle and end. He told McAlister that he wanted it to be "as impactful and big feeling" as any show with multiple scenes.[6] In the episode's tag, Paul and Jamie are shown watching a film in a similar style to the episode, and Jamie expresses her dislike of the one-take approach.[7]

Reception

Ratings

In its original broadcast, "The Conversation" finished 12th in the ratings for the week of December 15–21, 1997. It was viewed by 17.9 million viewers, according to Nielsen Media Research, giving Mad About You its largest audience since the sixth-season premiere in September.[8] It was the seventh highest-rated show on NBC that week, following episodes of ER, Seinfeld, Veronica's Closet, Friends, Union Square and Frasier.[8]

Critical response

Writing for The Akron Beacon Journal, James Endrst thought "The Conversation" was "in its own quiet way, a greater success" compared to the live ER episode.[5] Endrst praised Reiser and Hunt for their "touching and, under the TV circumstances, nearly flawless performances", and the script for creating distinctive and honest moments.[5] He concluded that it was not a groundbreaking episode, but special.[5] Walt Belcher from The Tampa Tribune said Mad About You succeeded with the one-take format, because it did not "overpower" the plot or performances, unlike experimental episodes of ER and Chicago Hope.[9]

David Bianculli of the New York Daily News was impressed that the episode was filmed in one take and that Gordon Hunt directed it "without a false note".[10] Bianculli felt the episode, despite its "strong" script, would "sink, rather than soar" if it was not for Reiser and Hunt.[10] He also joked that the episode featured more non-stop crying since the broadcast of telemovie The Women's Room.[10] In his review, The Capital's John Martin called the episode "inspired".[11] He wrote, "funny and heartwarming, it touches the uncertainties all good parents face."[11] Martin also attributed "outstanding performances" by Reiser and Hunt for making the episode so memorable.[11]

In contrast, The Baltimore Sun's David Zurawik found that 22 minutes of a crying baby was "way too much", and he believed that "The Conversation" was a good example of how "baby-obsessed" the sitcom had become.[12] Zurawik also reported that USA Today gave the episode a thumbs-down and stated that Mabel was the "most ill-conceived television baby since Murphy Brown's controversial Avery."[12] Mike Duffy of the Detroit Free Press branded "The Conversation" the "most annoying Mad About You episode ever". He added that commercials would have been a welcome interruption.[1]

A reporter for The Desert Sun had a mixed reaction, saying it was "a sweet episode that's a little slack in the middle, but ends quite poignantly."[13] Diane Shipley from British newspaper The Guardian thought the plot was "ill-conceived" but the filming format "was an impressive acting achievement, but one that replicated the noise and tedium of early parenthood far too effectively."[14]

Impact and legacy

In 2013, Jennifer Wood of Mental Floss included "The Conversation" in her feature on the "10 Best Bottle Episodes of Your Favorite TV Shows". Wood wrote that "director Gordon Hunt channeled his inner Ingmar Bergman to do the unthinkable: drop a camera on the floor of the Buchmans' apartment and leave it there. For the entire show. Whether the actors were in the shot or not."[15] She called it "pretty revolutionary stuff" and said the tag was "a clever nod" to the format.[15] Kaitlynn Smith from TV Fanatic also included the episode in her feature on "Amazing Bottle Episodes", calling it "one of the most challenging and well-executed" of the format.[16]

Vulture's Daniel Kurland named "The Conversation" as "one of the boldest bottle episodes ever".[7] He found the idea to be ambitious, and thought the subject matter would resonate with parents going through the same thing with their children. He also said it was "a showcase of Paul and Jamie as unconfident new parents, and it encapsulates this beautifully."[7] Kurland acknowledged that it is an unpopular episode with some viewers, but wrote "it might not be a perfect experiment, but it's a sort of brilliant, evolving idea."[7]

Actress Natalie Morales chose "The Conversation" as her most influential television episode in a feature for Decider.[17] Morales explained that upon her first viewing, she was unable to look away as she realized that it was all one take, making it "so starkly dissimilar from any other thing on TV."[17] She went onto say that the episode influenced her to think about breaking the mold and "the different ways I could do things that were already established as, 'Well, this is just how it's done.'"[17]

References

1. Duffy, Mike (December 16, 1997). "TV Today". Detroit Free Press. p. 30. Retrieved December 17, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
2. McAlister, Nancy (December 15, 1997). "Baby Cries, Tensions Will Rise 'Mad about You' Special Episode". The Florida Times Union. Archived from the original on December 21, 2019. Retrieved November 29, 2019 – via Questia.
3. Rohan, Virginia (December 16, 1997). "Small". The Record. p. 71. Archived from the original on December 24, 2019. Retrieved December 23, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
4. Rohan, Virginia (December 16, 1997). "Small is beautiful for 'Mad About You'". The Record. p. 63. Archived from the original on December 21, 2019. Retrieved December 21, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
5. Endrst, James (December 14, 1997). "1-take 'Mad About You' builds tension". The Akron Beacon Journal. p. 50. Archived from the original on December 21, 2019. Retrieved December 6, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
6. McAlister, Nancy (December 14, 1997). "'Mad About You' attempts episode without commercials this Tuesday". The Courier-News. p. 121. Archived from the original on December 21, 2019. Retrieved December 15, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
7. Kurland, Daniel (3 March 2015). "How 'Mad About You' Made One of the Boldest Bottle Episodes Ever". Vulture. Archived from the original on 16 December 2019. Retrieved November 30, 2019.
8. Lowry, Brian (December 24, 1997). "NBC Just 'Mad' About Its Holiday Programming". Los Angeles Times. p. 183. Archived from the original on December 16, 2019. Retrieved December 16, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
9. Belcher, Walt (December 16, 1997). "'Mad About' dares to be different". The Tampa Tribune. p. 64. Archived from the original on December 17, 2019. Retrieved December 17, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
10. Bianculli, David (December 16, 1997). "This 'Mad About You' a wail of a show". New York Daily News. p. 515. Archived from the original on December 17, 2019. Retrieved December 16, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
11. Martin, John (December 16, 1997). "'Mad About You' has an innovative, thoughtful show". The Capital. p. 22. Archived from the original on December 17, 2019. Retrieved December 16, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
12. Zurawik, David (December 30, 1997). "Three is a sitcom-stifling crowd when one is a baby". The News Journal. p. 36. Archived from the original on December 17, 2019. Retrieved December 17, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
13. "Tuesday, Dec. 16". The Desert Sun. December 16, 1997. p. 26. Archived from the original on December 18, 2019. Retrieved December 17, 2019 – via Newspapers.com.
14. Shipley, Diane (August 19, 2019). "How a baby's arrival made Mad About You as tedious as parenthood". The Guardian. Retrieved February 24, 2020.
15. Wood, Jennifer M (August 8, 2013). "The 10 Best Bottle Episodes of Your Favorite TV Shows". Mental Floss. Archived from the original on December 17, 2019. Retrieved November 30, 2019.
16. Smith, Kaitlynn (November 1, 2017). "17 Amazing Bottle Episodes of TV". TV Fanatic. Archived from the original on December 21, 2019. Retrieved December 21, 2019.
17. Sorokach, Josh; Reid, Joe (November 20, 2017). "25 Comedy Writers Pick Their Most Influential TV Episodes (Part 1)". Decider. Archived from the original on December 17, 2019. Retrieved December 17, 2019.

External links

• "The Conversation" on IMDb