Sladdbarn

"Sladdbarn" is a Swedish term to refer to a child who is born much later than their other siblings. There are similar terms for the concept in many other Nordic languages and some others.[1]

Etymologies

There are many playful synonyms for sladdbarn in the Nordic countries, "efterskott" (arrears; "after pay") for example in mainland Swedish. They're generally called "skrapabulla" (scrape bun) by Fenno-Swedes, the word comes from the slightly smaller bun that gets created when a baker needs to scrape off the bowl to get enough dough to fill the last cup. In Finnish, the term that is used is "iltatähti" (Evening Star), this after the planet Venus, which becomes visible during dusk, before the sun has gone down completely.[2] In the Norwegian language "attpåklatt" is the most commonly used word, being the equivalent of "top-up" or "second cup" which is when one receives a small refill of cream on a Café or extra porridge from one's parent for dessert.[3] In English a sladdbarn is sometimes colloquially called an "'oops' baby".

Definition

There are many opinions about how far apart it should be for the child to considered a sladdbarn.[4] If it has been at least six years between siblings, the younger child can be regarded as a sladdbarn according to the behavioral pedagogue Elisabeth Schönbeck.[5][6][7] Another opinion is that it is when the difference between the infant and the second youngest is greater than the difference between the second youngest and the eldest child. A commonly held rule of thumb is that it should be 10 years between the children.[8] Another criteria may be that the child is born long after the first clutch of children and thus is not part of the companionship of their older siblings, missing out on the sibling bonding stage during childhood, developing more as a single child.

Causes

Sladdbarn can be born because the parents mistakenly believe that they can no longer have children due to their age and stop using contraceptives. Another reason for a much later sibling is due to the parents feeling that their first group of children are getting older and they miss having small children around.[9] Sometimes older couples with a more unstable relationship have yet another child in later life due to feeling a need to keep the relationship together when their older children start becoming independent, thus losing the so-called "glue" that kept them from growing apart.

Effects

During the early 20th century having a sladdbarn was considered shameful in the country, as it was considered to imply that the parents were overly sexually active in old age.[10] In Sweden in the 1960s having a sladdbarn was considered a major economic setback for a working-class family[11] but a status symbol for the richer who could afford it.[10] Children whose only siblings are much older than them sometimes report feeling like an only child.[12] Many sladdbarn are often accused of being spoiled by their parents according to the older siblings.[13][14] They are also often said to remain childish even in adulthood.[15]

Notable people

• Ola Salo – singer[16]
• Miss Li – singer and songwriter[17]
• Niklas Andersson – hockey player[18]
• Anna Holmlunds – skier[19]

References

1. https://arwidson.wordpress.com/2017/05/30/sladdbarn/
2. Forskningscentralen för de inhemska språken – dialektala uttryck.
3. https://www.expressen.se/omtalat/lol-1/11-norska-ord-som-ar-sa-konstiga-att-vi-svenskar-bara-kan-skratta-at-dem/
4. https://www.pressreader.com/sweden/spraktidningen/20181114/282316796040892
5. "Beteendevetaren: Sladdbarnen blir framgångsrika men modersbundna". Arbetarbladet. 30 August 2010. Retrieved 17 May 2015.
6. "Endabarn och sladdbarn". Tryggabarn.nu. Retrieved 17 May 2015.
7. "Syskon – gör dig till den du är". Bra vardag. Archived from the original on 18 June 2015. Retrieved 17 May 2015.
8. https://www.aftonbladet.se/halsa/a/Xwaa5W/aldst-yngst-eller-mellanbarn--sa-paverkas-din-personlighet
9. https://www.metro.se/artikel/ny-unders%C3%B6kning-s%C3%A5-p%C3%A5verkas-vi-av-att-f%C3%A5-barn
10. Åke Arenhill; Nya och illustrerade sagor om Skåne 1966
11. 1966, Industria. Volume 62; Edition: 7–12 – Page 56
12. Bradford, Kelly Rose (5 April 2014). "I wish my son wasn't an only child". The Guardian.
13. https://www.aftonbladet.se/relationer/a/vmnjPl/mina-syskon-kallar-mig-lat-och-slarvig
14. https://www.svd.se/vi-blir-aldrig-fria-fran-vara-syskon
15. https://www.hemmets.se/ola-salo-som-liten-langtade-jag-mycket-efter-pappa/
16. http://www.vxonews.se/nyheter/ola-salo-en-extravagant-artist/
17. https://www.aftonbladet.se/nojesbladet/a/jPwLpA/miss-li-jag-kan-grotta-ner-mig-fullstandigt-i-angest
18. http://www.gp.se/kultur/kultur/på-mammas-gata-med-niklas-andersson-1.11982046?noAccess=true&aId=1.11982046
19. https://www.allehanda.se/artikel/sport/sladdbarn-med-vinnarskalle

Further reading

• Oops! How to Rock the Mother of All Surprises: A Positive Guide To Your Unexpected Pregnancy